Relational Therapy for Couples in Los Angeles and online in California and Oregon.

Do you and your partner keep having the same fight, no matter how much you talk about it? Whether it’s about communication, feeling unheard, intimacy, money, etc.—the argument never seems to arrive at  any real resolution, and you’re often left feeling frustrated, and emotionally disconnected. One or both of you probably have some insight into the problem, but still feel unable to shift what’s happening between you. You might say to yourself;  “we seem to understand the problem, but still get pulled into the same cycle!”  Or  “one of us walks away, the other keeps pushing the argument- we don’t know how to stop this!” If this feels familiar, you’re not alone—and it doesn’t mean your relationship is failing. It often means you’re caught in a pattern that hasn’t yet been fully understood.

I help couples who feel stuck in repetitive arguments and emotional disconnection. My work is thoughtful, collaborative, and emotionally and developmentally focused, helping couples understand not just what is happening in their relationship, but why. I pay close attention to what unfolds between you in session—especially in moments of emotional intensity, withdrawal, or conflict—to identify and interrupt the cycles that keep you stuck. By looking closely at your real-time relational dynamic, therapy can become a place to understand each partner’s emotional position without blame, reduce escalation and shutdown, and loosen patterns of resentment. Together, we will work toward challenging old, unhelpful patterns, as well as create new ways of relating that feel more grounded and intentional.

 In my work with couples, I draw from a mix of modalities that are grounded in decades of clinical research and relaional science. We work at a pace that allows for real understanding to unfold in sessions, allowing me to tailor an approach to fit your specific needs. Before making a commitment to therapy, I offer a free, 15 minute consultation to help determine whether I am a good therapeutic fit for what you are seeking. Click on the button below, to schedule your free consultation today!

Signs you might benefit from couples therapy:

• You feel worn down by the same unresolved arguments

• You often find yourself thinking, “we understand the issue, but nothing changes”

• You experience cycles of conflict, followed by emotional distance

• You find it difficulty to talk about the hard stuff

• You want a deeper understanding of your relationship dynamic

• You desire to feel more in your relationship than the familiar resentments, frustration and disconnect.

• You are curious, and committed to finding a new, mutually-satisfying way of relating to your partner.